- Your trying to ‘fix’ the problem. Coach the person not the problem
- The Coach isn’t being totally present. Turn off the computer and make sure your work area is free of mental and physical clutter. Really be present. Close your eyes if you’re on the phone or block your face ion Zoom or Skype.
- The Coach is not convinced of his/her own value. Don’t diagnose yourself with crappy coach syndrome. Remember to listen to someone with a curious and open mind is priceless and so are you.
- The Coach makes assumptions. Enter every session with a posture of “I know nothing.” Inquire about the client’s choice of words. Don’t assume you know what they meant.
- The Coach talks about him/herself. This is not your time. It is the client’s time to be seen, heard and understood.
- The Coach focuses on the ‘other person’ in the story rather than on the client. Coach the person in front of you. When you focus on another person in the story you are moving to solve or fix the problem.
- The Coach doesn’t continue to learn and train. Be a part of a lively and engaging mentor coaching group. I just happen to know of one. Try this one out for free! More info here.
BONUS: The best tip I have is to write this down and post it on your desktop or coaching workspace. W.A.I.T – Why am I talking? If it’s for any reason other than to support your client, close your mouth and listen. A well-placed pause can reward you with just the response that makes all the difference to the client.
